I want you to believe that it is never too late to re-create who you are. I also want you to learn how to tune into your inner wisdom and not compromise when you are choosing the actions you take.
Lifetimes can be filled with creation and and also some compromise. For must of us raised in the baby-boom generation, creation wasn’t a big thing, but compromise was big. Very, VERY big – but I’ll get back to that in a minute.
I have been fortunate to re-create myself multiple times throughout my life. As a child, I was pretty much a non-confrontational, want to do the right thing kind of girl. If I didn’t, well it would probably stand out because I’ve always been at least a head taller than most of my peers. My do-the-right-thing girl led to being an independent teen with an inner wild streak. It was never something I revealed but, it was there. My early twenties were very much a find myself time but I don’t know that I looked in the right place(s). My choices were usually sandwiched between what would be acceptable to me, as well as the world around me, i.e. my parents. The next thirty years have been filled with multiple degrees (bachelor’s, master’s, and PhD), multiple jobs (teacher, marketing manager, curriculum specialist, perfume sales, professor, administrator), as well as three children, a granddaughter, a marriage and a kind-of divorce. Each and every facet came together to shape a slightly different version of who I presented to the outside world.
But what’s the big deal about compromise? When I think about it, it sounds like it should be a positive quality. But the way that it manifest in my life is that compromise became something I was very good at…setting aside who I was and how I felt about things in order to make someone else happy or be acceptable in any given situation. I became a master until I no longer knew how to check in with myself and answer what was true for me. That’s what I mean about non-compromise. To make decisions and take action so that I am in alignment with my truth. So that I know the reason behind the things that I do. It’s taken me a few years to learn this skill, even though I still have to go searching for it at times. But, it is essential to be able to feel like you are living an aligned and authentic life.
If you feel like something is off in your life – this is for you.
If you feel like you want to change how you show up, for yourself and others – this is for you.
If you want to be an example for those you work with, lead, or your children and grandchildren – this is for you.
It’s never too late to lead the life you want to live!